Attachment Style Test
Attachment styles affect how we connect with others. They come from our early childhood and shape how we trust and communicate. Knowing your attachment style can help you build better relationships.
What Are Attachment Styles?
Psychologist John Bowlby first introduced attachment theory. Later, Mary Ainsworth expanded on it. This theory says that how we bonded with our caregivers as babies affects how we connect with people as adults. There are four main attachment styles:
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Secure Attachment
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Anxious Attachment
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Avoidant Attachment
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Disorganized Attachment
These styles shape how we handle emotions, closeness, and conflict.
Secure Attachment
People with secure attachment have healthy relationships. They trust others and feel comfortable with closeness. They also respect personal space. As children, they had caregivers who responded to their needs with love and support. As adults, they can form strong and lasting relationships.
Anxious Attachment
People with anxious attachment fear being abandoned. They need lots of reassurance. They may feel insecure and worry their partner will leave them. This usually comes from childhood where care was sometimes given and sometimes not. As adults, they often seek attention and approval to feel safe.
Avoidant Attachment
People with avoidant attachment prefer independence. They find it hard to be emotionally close to others. They avoid relying on people and keep their distance. This often comes from caregivers who were not very loving or responsive. As adults, they may struggle to open up and trust others.
Disorganized Attachment
People with disorganized attachment have mixed feelings about relationships. They want closeness but are also afraid of it. This style is often linked to childhood trauma or fear. Their caregivers may have been both a source of comfort and fear. As adults, they may find relationships confusing and hard to manage.
Can Attachment Styles Change?
Even though these patterns start in childhood, they are not permanent. You can change with self-awareness, therapy, and positive relationships. Learning about your attachment style can help you improve how you connect with others.
Taking the free attachment style test
Knowing about attachment styles can help you understand yourself and others. If you have an unhealthy pattern, you can work on changing it. By improving communication and trust, you can build better and more meaningful relationships.